Parents can help creative children create less violent health relationships
Researchers say parents and intimate educators can have strategies to build and maintain positive relationships with their children and establish less violent romantic relationships with young people.
The researchers found that when adolescents were informed about a positive family environment and that their parents are using more effective strategies in the field of parenting – how to provide reasons for decision-making, and to refrain from harsh penalties – These teens tend to continue improving skills and relationships Less violent romantic relationships, such as young adults problem solving.
Mengia Xia, a graduate student in human development and family studies in Pennsylvania, said the findings, recently published in the journal Youth and Adolescence, highlight how early family relationships can have long-term effects on emotional relationships among young people.
“During adolescence, you begin to know what you want in the relationship and to mold the skills you need to have successful relationships,” Xia said. “Family relationship is the first intimate relationship in your life, and applying what you have learned in later relationships is also where you can learn to communicate building – or maybe vice versa, screaming and shouting – when you have these skills. they are learned from the family and will be applied in subsequent relationships ”
The ability to form close relationships is an important skill for teens and young people to learn, Xia said. Previous research found that when young people know how to create and maintain healthy relationships, they tend to feel more comfortable with their lives and become better parents.
Hoping to learn more about the impact of early family experiences in later romantic relationships, the researchers recruited 974 teenagers to study.
At three points in time between grades 6 and 9, participants answered several questions about their families and about themselves. They have reported on the family climate (if they tend to integrate and support each other or often fight), the discipline strategies of their parents (their consistency and severity), their quality and whether they have positive interactions with their parents.
When the participants reached the age of majority, at an average age of 19.5, the researchers asked them about their love relationships. They answered questions about feelings of love towards their partner, if they could solve problems constructively in the relationship and if they were violent with their partner, both physically and verbally.
The researchers found that positive family weather and active parenting in adolescence were associated with better problem-solving skills in romantic relationships for young people. In addition, children who have a more positive interaction with their parents during adolescence reported that they have more love and communication in their relationships among young people.
“I think it was very interesting to discover that positive involvement with parents in adolescence was associated with romantic love at a young age,” Xia said. “This is important because love is the basis of romantic relationships, it is the basic component, and if you have an indication, you can open the way to help adolescents shape the capacity to love in romantic relationships.”
The researchers found that the more coherent and structured family climate and more effective fatherhood during adolescence were associated with a lower risk of violence in relationships with young people.
“Teens from less cohesive and more conflictive families may be less likely to learn strategies to solve positive problems or participate in family interaction with affection,” Xia said. “In their love relationships, they are less likely to be more compassionate and more likely to use destructive strategies when facing problems, such as violence.”
Xia said the findings suggest ways to help teens develop positive relationship skills at an early age, including self-promotion.
“In the study, we saw children who were more assertive with better skills to solve problems in their later relationships, which is very important,” Xia said. “If you can not solve the problem constructively, it can turn into negative strategies, which could include violence, so I think it’s important to promote the solution of construction problems as a way to avoid or minimize the possibility of resort to someone to have the destructive strategies in the link. “